With this ring, I thee… promise myself to you. While you may not be ready to buy that diamond ring, there are other ways to show the person you love your dedication and love to them. Call them what you want — promise rings, commitment rings, pre-engagement rings — they all represent the love and commitment you have for each other while you are dating.

So, how important are promise rings, really? Do you need to buy one? When do you give one? What finger do you wear a promise ring on? Are they expensive? You’ve got questions, and we’ve got the answers you need, so you can make your decision and go into this purchase with 100% confidence.

What Is A Promise Ring?

As the name suggests, a promise ring is exactly that: a ring that may be exchanged when two people promise themselves to each other. While an engagement ring indicates that the ring-wearer is engaged to be married (and given to the person you plan on marrying), promise rings are different. Both engagement rings and promise rings represent love, but promise ring significance symbolizes that while not legally married, you are dedicated to each other, and want to outwardly show that you are committed to the relationship.

Additionally, some couples who choose not to marry may still wear promise rings to symbolize that their commitment extends beyond simply dating or living together. Former Bachelor and Bachelorette stars Dean Unglert and Caelynn Miller-Keyes recently revealed that they wear commitment rings, to show that they are in a committed domestic partnership, and as a symbol to each other. Other celebrities have worn promise rings in the past, such as Selena Gomez and Miley Cyrus. Whether it’s to signify a future engagement or given as a symbol of devotion to one another, this ring represents love.

When to Give a Promise Ring

A promise ring is not an engagement ring or a wedding ring, but this ring still holds a lot of meaning that shouldn’t be taken lightly. Most couples consider gifting promise or commitment rings only once they are seriously dating. Whether that’s a year, 3 years, or even longer, that time frame will look different for each couple. Similarly to wondering how long you should wait before proposing to your partner, promise rings are to be given when you are ready to show your partner that you are committed to them and ready to start a life together.

Who Wears a Promise Ring?

An engagement ring is typically given to one person in the relationship, however, if both people in the relationship want to wear promise rings, there’s nothing wrong with that! Male promise rings are actually common, and there’s no reason why a man shouldn’t be able to wear one!

Which Finger Does a Promise Ring Go On?

In many Western countries, the engagement ring is to be worn on the fourth finger on the left hand. The wedding band will also sit on this finger, often next to the engagement ring if you choose to wear it daily. A promise ring, however, can be worn on any finger you’d like! However, it is recommended that you avoid the finger you’d traditionally wear an engagement ring on, as it may cause confusion regarding your marital status. For added significance, couples wear their promise rings on the same finger, but that is up to the couple!

How Much Should I Spend?

Engagement rings are typically a bigger financial purchase, due to the fact that it has a larger center diamond and more details. There are no rules or guidelines when it comes to how much you should spend on a promise ring. Those on a budget may opt for a simple, promise ring, while others might go with something with a little more sparkle. 

But even if traditional promise rings are generally simpler and less expensive than engagement rings, you should spend as much as you’re comfortable with. Clean Origin has a great selection for every price range, whether you want to keep it simple or wear more bling. And, if you choose to pick a promise ring with lab-grown diamonds, you’ll be saving even more; man-made stones are up to 40% less expensive than mined diamonds of comparable size and quality.

What Do Promise Rings Look Like?

Promise rings can vary greatly depending on what style or gemstone you choose to buy. Most promise rings will not feature one main center stone, as this could look more like an engagement ring. But, diamonds are still a popular choice for promise rings. Either in a smaller cluster formation or set in a band, promise rings tend to look less extravagant than engagement rings. You can also choose to not have any diamonds on your promise ring, or feature non-diamond stones. This would include stones like emeralds, rubies, or sapphire gemstones.

Other popular diamond alternatives that are out there are moissanite and cubic zirconia. Choosing moissanite or cubic zirconia will be much less expensive than choosing a mined diamond, but they are also less brilliant and much less durable. If you’re looking for a diamond that has all the same qualities as a mined diamond, at a less expensive price, a lab-grown diamond is the way to go.

Our Promise Ring Picks 

If you are looking for a simple metal band with no diamonds or gemstones, our Perfect Fit Solitaire Band, which is our most comfortable band style, is a perfect choice. The Perfect Fit band ensures that the ring will not turn while on your finger and the sculpted sides provide a comfortable fit, while still looking timeless. Another great option without a diamond or gemstone is our Vintage Solitaire Band. Perfect for the romantic at heart with beautiful filigree details — we love this ring even more in Rose Gold!

If you’re looking for a promise ring with a little more sparkle, we, of course, have some fantastic options as well. Our Oasis Diamond Ring features 7 delicately placed lab-created diamonds that sit between intricately detailed metalwork in the precious metal of your choosing. Another favorite style is our Evermore Diamond Ring with two infinity twists studded with over forty lab-created diamonds. Fashionable in any of our metal choices, this is one promise ring that’s sure to turn some heads.

Next Steps…

A promise ring is a fantastic way to display your relationship status, and if you are looking for an engagement ring to seal the deal down the line, Clean Origin is always here to help! Plus, if you do eventually end up marrying your partner, you can easily stack your promise ring with your engagement and wedding rings to show these three stages of commitment in your relationship!